TRAUMATIC BRAIN INJURY
Traumatic brain injury mechanism.
See more at: www.videoclinical.com Distributed by Tubemogul.
Duration : 7 min 48 sec
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Puzzles and Brain Training from Mensa - HQ WIDESCREEN
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Duration : 0:1:32
Brain Age:Train your brain - Super Smash Bros Brawl
from the Brain training games.
this song plays on the Pictochat stage.
Duration : 0:6:5
Brain Waves — The Book
The pages of my book. See also the narated version on YouTube.
Duration : 8 min 54 sec
Los nuevos juegos del “Mas Brain Training”The Human Mind
The human mind is the most incredible computer it would be possible to imagine. Yet no one knows where it is! Scientists have made detailed studies of the brain, but have been unable to locate where the mind is.
Our brain is composed of some 14 trillion brain cells! A very few people are making use of perhaps less than 10% of their mental capability. Most of us are probably using nearer 1%. So the potential we have is virtually unlimited.
For our purposes, imagine that the brain is in two parts: the Conscious mind and the Subconscious (or Inner) mind. The conscious mind does all our day to day thinking, our communication with others and general thoughts each day of our lives. Do you realise that you are thinking at the rate of about 1,200 words a minute?
The Subconscious mind looks after all our involuntary functions: the beating of our hearts, the breathing of our lungs. It also has stored in it every single experience and every thought we have ever made from the moment we were born. Some people believe that it also contains all the memories of our past lives as well. As it contains memories of everything that has ever happened, we can use it to locate information we need. For instance, you may be walking down the street and suddenly bump into someone you haven`t seen for a long while. Whilst talking, you are frantically thinking of their name, and suddenly it will come to you, hopefully whilst your are still in conversation!
If it is something that occurred many years ago, your subconscious mind may have to spend a long time locating the necessary information. That is why we can sometimes have a problem when we go to bed. In the morning the answer will suddenly pop into our heads.
Admittedly, it doesn`t work exactly the way we want it to. Yet our brain is perfect, it remembers and files away everything. Sometimes, though, our recall is faulty. When something is “on the tip of our tongue” our brain is not working as well as we would like it ot. The best way to handle this is to temporarily “forget” what we are trying to remember and soon it will come back to us whilst we are thinking about something completely different. If you are constant absent-minded, it would pay to take a memory training course. (contact me)
There is a third part of our mind also. This is the Super-Conscious mind. Hardly anything is known about it, but this is where everything really important happens. Ideas come from here. So does creativity, and ESP. (Extra Sensory Perception) When you come up with a good idea, it comes directly from your Super-Conscious mind, through your Sub-Conscious mind to your Conscious mind, and it is then up to you to act upon it.
Your Super-Conscious mind is your creative force, and is the most important part of your mind. It contains all the answers to anything you may ever want to know. Writers, artists, composers, inventors, clairvoyants, and all sort of other people use this part of their mind when doing whatever it is they do. Sometimes these people feel totally inspired.
A composer may start on a melody and then, all of a sudden, the rest of the tune just comes with no apparent effort on his part. It has all come from directly from the Super-Conscious mind.
Your Super-Conscious mind contains all the information of the universe and you have access to it whenever you want. All you have to do is ask.
You have already used it many, many times. Say, for instance, that you have a major problem that has to be resolved the following day. You worry about it and think about it, and find it hard to get to sleep as it is still bothering you. When you wake up the following morning, the answer suddenly pops into your head. “Eureka” you cry and you happily go and solve the problem. Where did the answer come from? You did not have it when you fell asleep. It was not in your Conscious mind, nor was it in your Sub-Conscious.
What happened was, while you were asleep, the Sub-conscious contacted the Super-Conscious mind and asked for the answer. Next time you have a problem of this sort, tell your Sub-Conscious mind about it and say that you need an answer by a certain time.
Overnight is fine, but two days would be better. Don`t tell it how you want the problem resolved. Just ask for the answer and confidently expect it to come. Ask again several times during the time limit you have set, and your Super-Conscious mind will solve your problem.
Guitar Practice Techniques
Have you spent months and months or possibly years practicing the guitar only to realize that you’re barely any better now then when you first started? After all of your practice time do you have at least one song that you can play all the way through fairly well? Or do you have a collection of songs none of which you can play very well other than bits and pieces of it? If so, this can be remedied if you have a desire to succeed.
The inability to play even the simplest of songs scales or licks can be summed up in three things:
Not understanding how the brain learns something new
Improper practice techniques
Lack of concentration
Lets take the first one. Not understanding how the brain learns something new. Whenever we begin to learn something new our brain develops a pathway for that new information. The more you reinforce that new thing the more ingrain that pathway becomes, to the point that whatever we learn becomes second nature to us. Early in our lives we learned to walk. Since then we have done it so much that we long ago stopped thinking of how to do it. In other words we just do it.
But lets say we want to alter the way we walk. In other words instead of walking left foot right foot, left foot right foot, and so on, we want to walk two lefts then one right then two rights and then one step back with the left foot and so on an so forth. It should be easy, right! Besides we have been walking for twenty or thirty years it should be a piece of cake. But it’s not because we’re asking our mind to do something we have been doing most of our life in a different manner. So we have to go at it in basically the same manner as when we were learning to walk. By making mistakes, trial and error.
Learning to play the guitar is the same way. Most of us can move our fingers (of our fretting hand) in all sort of ways. We can move them fast or slow. Two or three at a time or each one individually. So why can we not just grab a guitar and go to town with it? Because we are requiring them to move in a prescribed manner rather then in a series of random movements. Therefore we must start the learning process once again. Which leads me to our second point. Improper practice techniques.
Improper practice techniques are the second thing that cause a person not to progress with their guitar playing. What is the proper technique? The first is to start very slow. The second is go slower than you can stand. The third is to go so slow people watching think you have fallen asleep. Why? Because to many people practice faster then their mind can record it. Let me say that again. Many people practice faster then their mind can record what they are doing. You must first put in your brain a perfect pathway for the thousands of repetitions you will be performing for just one movement.
Let me give you just one example. Put your first finger on the first string eighth fret. We will perform a very simple movement. Your third finger which should be dangling in the air will come down on the first string tenth fret. Easy right? But I am willing to bet that many don’t do it perfectly. That’s the key to playing like a pro. To not only look relaxed while you’re doing it but making it sound perfect. That’s where slow comes in. You must play a guitar like your reading a book. And how do people who read well read. A person who reads well looks at the word ahead of the one they are reading. This allows for you to read smoothly (without breaks between words) and fluently (smoothly at the desired speed.).
You must do the same with the guitar. While your first finger is on the first string at the eighth fret you pick the string. At the same time you pick the string your eyes are already looking at the tenth fret preparing the way for your third finger. At that moment you are training your mind in what it should do. Instead of your fingers flailing about with no reason, you’re instructing your mind what to tell your fingers what they should do. And however and whatever you tell your mind what you want it to do, it will do it. And once it is in your mind, then with much practice it will become second nature. If you practice with a perfect style you will play perfectly. If you practice in a sloppy manner you will play sloppy. This leads me to my last point. Lack of concentration.
If you do not concentrate while you are practicing you will not be laying a pathway in your mind. Lack of concentration will cause your progress to be slow. What will greatly increase your abilities almost overnight is a metronome. This beeping wonder will do this. You will be forced to listen to the beep which will force you to think about where your finger is going. Hence, it helps with your concentration. I always start at 60. At 60 you have a lot of time between beeps to know ahead of time where your next note is, what finger you will use, and the shortest path there.
My best advice would be to fill your practice session with scales in the type of music you will most likely be playing. Start out at 60 and even if you can go faster resist the urge to do this. Force yourself to go the slow speed. Continue at this speed until the sound of each note is perfect. The movement of your hand glides smoothly over the fretboard. And your arms, hand and body are all relaxed.
If you follow the advice in this article you will in just a very short time notice a considerable difference in your playing. Remember. Play slow. Know what your next note is before you play it. Use a metronome. And above all relax and concentrate.
So you Want to be a Public Speaker?
Have you ever attended a seminar and said, “Wow, I wish I could speak like that”? Well, I’ve got some great news for you. You can be a public speaker.
There is no such thing as a born public speaker. Public speaking is a learned skill, basically anyone can do it. You just need to follow some simple rules and practice. If you know how to talk, you can become a public speaker. Becoming really good at public speaking requires some risk.
Now understand there is risk involved. You risk being rejected when you ask someone out on a date, and you risk getting into an accident every time you drive your car.
If you were afraid of getting into an accident, you’d never get behind the wheel, right? It has been proven that one of our greatest fears, believe it or not, is public speaking.
The key to getting up in front of an audience is believing that you have something to share with them that may make a difference in their lives - by entertaining them, warning them, encouraging them, or giving them direction or information. In order to be good at anything, you have to practice.
Itâs easy to become discouraged if you expect to be as good as Zig Ziglar, Tom Antion Bill Brooks and Jim Cathcart right out of the shoot. But if you knew their backgrounds you will find that it took a long time before they were able to do what they do so well.
The thing to remember is the only person you need to compare yourself with is yourself. You must constantly work for your personal best, so when you are preparing your speech and practicing, all you need to ask yourself is, âis your second speech better than your first?â Did you learn something new as you prepared for your speech? Did you learn something from the feed-back comments of others after you gave your speech? That’s all you need to do. You can use what you’ve learned to make the next speech your best and then use the same process for each speech you give thereafter. Just take one step at a time.
Find your Niche
The more you like your topic, the more your audience will want to hear about it. There are three ways to determine your power fields, interests, majors and pet peeves. Start with process one and follow these recommendations.
But before you do that, you need to understand, to become a successful public speaker you must be passionate about your public speaking career. You MUST, eat drink and sleep public speaking. You must be focused, determined and control any and all distractions to become successful in this field. It is an absolute must that you love what youâre doing. Yes, itâs important you must enjoy helping people and be around people â communication is a two way process. âThe reason I do this basically is that I enjoy being in front of people. I get fired up, excited and enjoy the interaction. Yes, ego is involved also. Itâs a rush!â
Now, back to where we were. Below are some questions to ask yourself to find your niche. âYour audience will know if you really care about what youâre speaking on â believe me! So, find your niche.â
PROCESS 1
What do you like to do in your spare time?
What are your hobbies?
What do you like to do at holidays?
What is your favorite travel destination?
What do you like to talk about with friends?
On what issue do you hold a strong opinion?
What issue do you like to know more about?
What values are you standing for?
What special expertise do you have?
What do you fix well?
What special skills do you have?
What special professional or personal experiences have you had in your life?
What speech topic or debate in the news recently focused your attention?
PROCESS 2
Associate. Lets say you like to talk about Donald Trump. Now write down all things that come up in your mind. All the things related to Donald Trump. E.g. real estate, business successes, scandals, TV productions, his friends, and so on. In other words, you are building a topic tree around Mr. Trump. This method takes some time, but you can apply it on almost every candidate issue.
PROCESS 3
Is it of great interest to you?
Does it really excite you?
Is it something you’re already interested in?
Did you always want to know more about it, but didn’t have the time to find out?
Do you love to talk about it?
Do you already know more about the speech topic?
Are you passionate about your subject?
Most importantly, regardless of the subject, YOU MUST BE PASSIONATE ABOUT PUBLIC SPEAKING AND THE TOPIC BE PRESENTED!
Once you have found your niche(s), perfect it/them. If youâve noticed, you can have more than one. It is strongly suggested you have multiple subject matter. Personally, I have eight seminars from one hour to a two week on site venue. Donât limit your marketability with only having one or two. Versatility is the name of the game. But which ever you choose become the expert in that/those subject(s). Stay up to date with changes, technology or whatever impacts change to your subject. Constant research is the key here. Remember, people are paying for your knowledge!
Tools of the Trade:
To start on this subject, I will layout the common tools required to maintain your trade:
1. Laptop Computer
2. Digital movie camera (professional is suggested here)
3. Mobile Projection (presentations)(see InFocus)
4. Thumb Drive (2GIG min)
5. Headset Microphone Wireless System
6. Digital micro recorder
7. The most important tool of all your voice.
⢠Voice is essential to your profession. To take care of your voice properly is essential to your longevity
⢠Doâs to project and save your voice:
1. Get an annual check-up from a throat specialist â Prevention is always better than a cure.
2. Consider professional voice training. A voice teacher, professional choir director or singer can make a world of difference in techniques and your sound.
3. Drink six to eight glasses of water daily â this helps to moisten throat tissue and cuts down on dryness which leads to irritation.
4. Drink only water, lemonade or warm liquids when using your voice for long periods of time. Ice cold liquids have a tendency to shock or paralyze the throat and causes strain.
5. Use warm salt water solution or warm lemonade to gargle with after long hours of selling especially if your throat feels tired.
6, Use a quality sound system. Donât buy because of price â buy because of sound.
7. Let the sound system do the work for you â thatâs why you have it. Control crowd with sound system. Turn it up if theyâre too noisy â silence will quite them also. Keep them attentive but not by yelling.
8. Relax your body and voice. You can feel tightness and tension â relax, breathe deeply, relax, breathe deeply.
9. Keep throat moist at all times. Small pieces of candy held in corner of mouth help produce saliva. Avoid menthol candies, cough drops, etc. They tend to cause dryness. NEVER, NEVER chew GUM! Yes it does produce saliva but looks disgusting. âEvery time I see one chewing gum during a presentation I see a barnyard animal chewing cud!â - âOkay, my pet Peeve!â
10. Project voice naturally. Talk naturally but project upward and outward through diaphragm. Talk to furthest person from you to help projection.
11. Practice and try to cultivate the habit of âdiaphragmatic breathingâ whenever you have to speak. Your voice will hold up much better, sound stronger, and be more pleasant for others to hear.
⢠DON’TS: Here are a few that can affect your voice quality and lead to throat problems.
1. Donât strain â learn proper breathing techniques and protection techniques. Prolonged straining of your voice causes the vocal chords to rub violently together causing blisters or nodules often requiring surgery and then voice therapy to correct.
2. Donât scream or shout excessively â Auctioneers donât speak without a good sound system.
3. Donât use a cotton handkerchief over mike â dust and cotton particles from the handkerchief cause dryness and strain.
4. Donât rely on throat lozenges, sprays, pills, steam to ease throat. This is a dead give-away to problems. Donât spray antihistamines to clear nose. They dry out throat tissue excessively and often cause drainage into throat. Grosse, but true.
5. Donât speak out of pitch â too high or too low a pitch causes voice strain, how do you find your pitch? Talk or hum to determine pitch.
6. Donât cough, sneeze or clear throat excessively â causes incredible stress on vocal chords and irritation from rubbing together that may lead to nodules.
7. Donât speak louder or change your pitch when you have head congestion. You may feel you canât be understood unless you adjust your voice but remember, your audienceâs ears are not congested and they can hear you fine. Slower, more careful articulation will help your clarity.
8. Donât smoke! If others around you are smoking, drink water. This greatly reduces the likelihood of throat irritation.
9. Donât ignore warning signs â hoarseness, laryngitis, sore throat (especially after speaking), swelling, lumps or continued irritation. Donât wait â get it checked by a doctor and hydrate.
Remember; donât skimp on quality with your tools. Your tools are important and cost should not be a factor. You get what you pay for!
Delivery
As a speaker, you never want to âdieâ in front of the room, but if you take the wrong position, it may very well affect how your received.
Lots of research on covert influence shows that it really does matter where one stands when we present our subject matter.
To satisfy yourself that the position of your body in relationship to others is important, try this. Ask several to help you out. Place two chairs face to face, just about 3-4 feet from each other. Now, assuming you are sitting in one, slide the other over about two feet to the right, so when the other person is sitting across from you, youâll be to their right, and vice versa.
Now have each person sit across from you as you present a short subject. Have them appraise you on a scale from 1-10 how comfortable they are with you. After they have done so, move your chair so that they are now across from you, and on your left and repeat the process. Do this with as many people as you can, because the results are overwhelming. Youâll be shocked to find that almost everyone rates you as being much more comfortable when you are on their right side. Not only that, but research also indicates that you will be seen as more attractive as well. See how this might be beneficial?
So, how do you use this information in a live presentation? While there are more complex strategies, the basic use of this is not only powerful, but simple.
When you first take the stage, youâll want to stand near the center, just off to the right of the audience, or your left. As the presentation progresses, you will want to use both sides of the stage; the side to the right of the audience for anything you want them to associate positive feelings to, and the left side to the things you want them to link to negativity. Ainât science wonderful?
Nerves
Your mouth is dry, heart pounding, and knees knocking. You go into panic, facing a dreaded public speaking engagement.
âNow understand, I have been speaking since 1973 and have given hundreds of seminars and each and every time Iâm nervous.â
Here are a few tips that may help combat those symptoms and reduce nervousness.
1. Deep breathing will help your brain work to capacity, and forcing the slower pace will quell the panic.
2. Exude confidence; Stand tall, with shoulders back and chest out. Smile. Even though you donât feel happy or confident, do it anyway. You will look confident and your body will fool your brain into thinking it is confident. It works!
3. Keep you mouth and throat hydrated. Plan to keep a drink on hand while you are speaking, though this sounds impossible. Place (room temperature) water strategically placed so you can re-hydrate during your presentation. Know when in your presentation it would be less noticed. If all else fails tell your audience that you need to hydrate. You can make it humorous.
4. Adrenalin sends the blood rushing to the fight/flight centers of your brain at the base of the skull. Place your hand on your forehead and press gently on the bony points. This will bring the blood to the parts of the brain that need it to present your speech best.
5. Know you are prepared. Obviously this depends on actually being prepared, so take every opportunity in the days leading up to the speech to prepare your material. Be familiar with the structure of the presentation, and the ideas to use. Memorize the most important parts, and the parts you might forget.
6. Know your audience, its critical! Their average age, gender, race, income levels, education, generally their demographics. Remember, the more you know your audience the more it will put you at ease.
7. Remember, you are the expert! Yes, there are people who might know more about your subject. I think this way, âif there is a person that knows more about the subject being presented in the audience, then why they are not up here presenting and I seated in the audience?â
7 Keys of making a Speech
1. Grammar â Use correct grammar. Write out your speech in advance and read it aloud a few times. This will help you catch most of the mistakes privately. Ask a friend to listen to the speech and give you feedback or note any grammatical errors.
2. Filler Words â Unnecessary words that do not help convey your point can be distracting. Avoid the use of âuh, ah, um, you know, like, and I mean.â In order to avoid run-on sentences, insert a one-second â pause - between sentences instead of using âandâ or âsoâ to connect two or more sentences. Before you take the stage practice saying any difficult words you plan to use.
3. Body Language â By this, I am referring to unintentional cues you give such as looking at your notes, not making eye contact, slumped shoulders, hands in pockets jingling money, or slouching on the lectern. Practicing in front of a mirror will help you discover your own quirky movements.
4. Gestures â These are intentional movements you use to make a point or illustrate the importance of a word. Make your gestures large enough to be seen by the person sitting in the back of the room. Step away from the lectern when using the lower part of your body; otherwise your movement will not be seen.
5. Vocal Delivery â Avoid monotone and jazz up your presentation by varying your tone (emphasis or emotion), pitch (high or low voice), and rate (fast or slow). All these help keep an audience interested in what you are saying.
6. Topicâ Your focus should be on your audience. An interesting topic is important, but should be relevant to your listenerâs needs. Prepare ahead of time. Write key points on small 3×5 note cards to remind you of what is next. Reading off cue cards is discouraged. Only use them if necessary. Know your subject!
7. Visual Aids â Not all presentations require or need visual aids. However, visual aids and handouts make a your presentation more interesting.
Impromptu Speaking
If you have ever given a presentation at work or at a special event you know how nerve-wracking it can be. A little nervousness is normal. It shows that you care and are excited about the opportunity youâve been given to speak. Having nervousness overcome your ability to function in front of an job interview panel can be harmful.
Practice impromptu speaking as a way of learning to respond effectively on a momentâs notice.
Here are a few suggestions about how to rehearse for successful impromptu speaking. For this exercise you will require:
⢠A timer, stopwatch or clock with a second hand sweep.
⢠A friend - If you donât have anyone to practice with, youâll have to watch the timer yourself.
⢠A topic â here are three:
1. What is procrastination and how it impacts ones personal life.
2. You have a friend that has asked you for some advice on why his business is not taking off. You know it is his focus and time management that needs real help.
3. Please give your advice on how to deal with rush-hour traffic.
Take each topic listed above one at a time. Have your friend read one topic aloud then set the timer for two minutes.
Your friend will give you a silent signal when youâve reached one minute and again when you have reached two minutes. Try to keep speaking until you get the one minute signal. Then, wrap up when you get the two minute signal.
Compose your thoughts as quickly as possible and begin addressing the topic. Give a simple opening statement. You may repeat the topic question as your opening. Then, give your opinion about the topic by answering the questions to the best of your ability. Give a summary of what you presented.
Guest Speaker
Being a guest speaker in front of the right audience can be an excellent way to attract new business. Many clubs, organizations, conventions, and trade shows seek guest speakers who can provide useful information to their audience. The opportunity to speak in front of an attentive group can certainly boost your business, whether you are a service or product provider.
Design your speech or presentation so that the audience leaves with useful information that will help them. Avoid giving a sales pitch; this will be a turn-off for both the audience and the speaker-coordinator.
Here are a number of reasons why being a guest speaker can attract more business:
You are perceived as an expert in your field.
You have an opportunity to get free publicity to promote the event.
You have the opportunity to hand out information to each attendee (with your contact name on it).
You can ask for names and addresses of attendees to build your contact database.
You can chat one-on-one with the attendees after the meeting. Make sure you have a business card!
Check out your local Chamber of Commerce, local trade shows, or your local Convention Center. In some cities there are Professional Meeting Planners who often seek speakers. Your participation as a speaker at one event may lead to other contacts in the industry.
TRAUMATIC BRAIN INJURY
Traumatic brain injury mechanism.
See more at:www.videoclinical.com Distributed by Tubemogul.
Duration : 6 min 33 sec
Weight Loss? 2 Basic Skills You Need
Laurel Mellin, M.A., R.D. Associate Clinical Professor ,
University of California at San Francisco School of Medicine
Director, Institute for Health Solutions Author, The Pathway:
Follow the Road to Health and Happiness The Solutions: 6 Winning
Ways to Permanent Weight Loss The Shapedown Program
If you have been dieting, there is a good chance you have lost
weight. Unfortunately, large numbers of successful dieters
quickly regain the poundage. If you wish to maintain the weight
you have lost without developing substitute excesses such as
overspending, overworking, excessive drinking or smoking, you
must satisfy the emotional hunger that causes people to overeat.
To do this you need to master two basic skills - self-nurturing
and setting effective limits. Self-nurturing is the ability to
check our feelings and needs throughout the day in order to know
and honor ourselves and better meet our needs. Setting effective
limits is the skill of having reasonable expectations and
following through with them. That enables us to take action and
have more power and greater safety in our lives. People who have
mastered these two skills are far more likely to be healthy and
happy. Learning them is not a quick fix and takes time. But,
from the first moment you use them, you will begin to feel
better and more satisfied. After these skills are used over and
over again, they become integrated into our brains, and the
changes are developmental, that is, we begin to feel as if we
have a new life. These are not new concepts. In fact, the
essential elements of self-nurturing and setting limits have
been part of the scientific literature since at least 1940. The
problem is that the current methods used to help people lose
weight, don’t involve these skills. So, people lose weight then
regain it and begin to believe that they cannot solve their
weight problems. They feel powerless and discouraged. All that
is unnecessary. Our patterns for self-nurturing and limits
skills were implanted early in life in the feeling brain. The
various healing methods for feeling better and turning off the
drive to overeat, which are based on insight, knowledge, or
analysis, are processed by the thinking brain. Unfortunately,
they target the wrong part of our brain. So, we know what we
should eat, but we can’t do it. The drives to overeat are too
strong. The Solution Method enables you to reach your feeling
brain and retrain it will the skills of nurturing and limits.
It’s just like learning to type. The more you practice it, the
sooner the skills become automatic. When they do, your inner
life naturally favors a life in which the whole range of
excesses (not just overeating, but overspending, overworking,
drinking too much and smoking) fades. What follows is nothing
less than a personal transformation. But, it requires time -
usually 18 months to master the basic skills. Group meetings,
such as the support provided by the Buddy system, are key. Until
recently, most people were unaware of this method. That proved
to be a blessing. It enabled us to study it in relative
obscurity. We have been able to train thousands of people in
this method. While using The Solution, you will become aware
that there are two worlds: the world above the line and the
world below the line. With training, you pump your
self-nurturing and limits skills so that you spend more of your
day above the line or in a state in which you are emotionally
balanced, spiritually connected and intimate with others.
Moreover, the annoying drives that cause your excesses - what we
call “external solutions” - fade. Life without the
self-nurturing and limit setting skills forces you to spend too
much time below the line. Life below the line keeps you out of
balance. Your excesses flourish, and your life has few rewards.
There are a few explanations for why you lack these skills to
nurture yourself and set limits. Modern life requires more
skills. Earlier generations were faced with far fewer choices
and a less changing society. Indeed, communities were more
nurturing. Further, your parents may not have had the ability to
teach you these skills. Because these skills are transmitted
early in life and are harder to learn later in life, the legacy
of imbalance is often perpetuated from one generation to
another. Self-nurturing and limits skills consist of clusters of
questions that we ask ourselves over and over - until they
become automatic. The following are the questions for the
nurturing skills: How do I feel? What do I need?
Do I need support? The following are the questions for
the limits skills: Are my expectations reasonable?
Is my thinking positive and powerful? What is
the essential pain? What is the earned reward? The questions
posed by the nurturing cycle enable us to access our deepest
feelings. The limits cycle contains our feelings and helps them
mature. The goal of the method is the interweaving of the
skills. Initially, you use the skills intentionally. That moves
us from an imbalanced state to one that is balanced. It’s
extraordinarily powerful to be at the grocery store, stuck in
traffic or home alone with the refrigerator packed with food and
know that all you have to do is reach for these skills, and, in
a matter of moments, you can move yourself above the line. Your
drive to overeat will fade. You’ll stop wanting the food. You’ll
still enjoy it. But, food becomes just food, not a fix. What’s
more, the groups are fun. We use a buddy system and a warm and
wonderful Internet community for support. (For more information,
visit www.thepathway.org or contact The Institute for Health
Solutions at 415-457-3331.)
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