Many questions for your personal development…
Sometimes, it’s best to ask yourself why you want to utilize personal development techniques to become popular in the first place. Why do you want to become popular? Is there a special type of group you’re trying to impress? If you can ask yourself the hard questions (and answer them honestly) about what you want and why, then you are ready for your next step.
Try mind mapping a personal mission statement to help you design and achieve your ideal life. When you are uncertain where your life is heading, or when you doubt your own abilities, this mission statement will remind you: who you are, what you are determined to achieve, and what you have already accomplished to date. See the mind map I created to go with this article.
By building yourself a mission statement, you will then have your own personal plan to keep you on track and answerable to yourself. It’s a significant personal compass, and one that you can carry with you at all times.
Be Comfortable and Confident
One of the first things to remember is that confident body language can often help you be more at ease with yourself and who you are. Like ducks to water, people will flock to you when you exude confidence. Remember, the happier you are with yourself, the happier others will be with you too.
Your Style and Look
Just as Picasso, Da Vinci, and Rembrandt crafted and molded masterpieces that incorporated themselves, so must your personal image be carved, painted, shaded, and shaped the best way that represents you. Contrary to what most people would believe, constantly switching up the style of your appearance seems rather desperate for popularity, rather than cemented in confidence of one’s self. For example, a nice short hair cut could do wonders for an individual to bring out their eyes, or smile. These simple changes can give you a real confidence boost, but ensure it is a look that best represents who you are.
Dress to Impress. So, dress like an apple
I remember my elders telling me that an apple a day keeps the doctor away. I often wonder why we haven’t utilized all this revolutionary information? Why do we refuse to take action? These questions can only be answered honestly by you and perhaps comes down to self discipline. The healthier we are, the better we feel. Feeling well and healthy, often naturally transpires into looking healthy. And if you look healthy, people will most likely be attracted to you. Having a shower every day will help. Need I mention deodorant, a comb through the hair, and a toothbrush to the teeth will aid in anyone’s quest for popularity? I suppose I just did.
Be Passionate
Throughout the years, America, and many other countries, has created movies that dazzle us and shoots us toward some form of personal development. They wrap us in a choke hold of suspense, or they drown us in admiration for a fictional character’s plights, victories, and lessons learned. One common characteristic all of the heroes in those movies have, is passion. Their passion is the reason our breaths become baited with anticipation of their triumph. Those story bound people have what most viewers feel they lack.
Now, if we focus on the real life characters with passion we see why Abraham Lincoln, John F. Kennedy, Martin Luther King, Jr., Malcolm X, George Lucas, Michael Jackson, Truman Capote, Fred Astaire, and Princess Diana were so popular. In regards to their passion for what they achieved, they astounded many, and bewildered the rest. Do something you love, but have been too afraid to try. With a great spirit and strong passion to share, the more others will want to share with you.
Hesitate To Shine No More
Your gifts and talents should not be hidden from the world. Never hesitate to share your interests with others. By showing all facets of who you are, your knowledge, and your capacity to learn what you didn’t know, will cause people to forge relationships with you, almost instantly! The more you shine, the more confidence you have, the more popular you become. You will become more known. But beware of the vanity and arrogance that infect most individuals who catch the popularity bug. Be humble, and open to new ideas, new people, and new ways to express your thoughts creatively.
Talk It Up
Make sure to keep talking. No, you don’t want to become a chatter bird, constantly rambling on and on to be friendly, while everyone else wants you to shut up. This should be knowlegeable and reassuring talk. When you speak, try to make a point, or discover information. After all, that is what communication is all about.
Be adventurous, talk to somebody new each day. Then move on and next week try talking to two new people daily. The next week, try to talk to three, etc. Build this gradual climax towards talking more freely, understanding, and popularly chatting with everyone.
Do Something New
Try to venture out into the unknown and familiarize yourself with it. Many times, we seek refuge within the comfort zones of our habitat. Move out of your comfort zone and trying something new every once in a while is a great way to gain popularity.
Bear in mind that you should only participate if you really want to, not because you only want the attention for it. When you do decide to try something new, make sure you have a genuine interest in doing it and are not just doing it because you should. Its like ensuring you can swim before holding your breath under water.
Oh, and never show off when you do participate in things you’ve never tried. This could be going to a movie, joining a pottery class, taking up a new sport, or doing a course to enhance either your business and or personal life. Make sure it’s around people who enjoy doing the things you haven’t tried, and build a bond with them (even if you’ll never, say, attend an Opera again). This can only help you to become more popular.
Go With the Flow
Do you remember when you where younger and you discovered a talent you had, one that was magically given to you in the blink of an eye, and you happened to master within two to five minutes? But do you remember talking the talent to someone, a teacher, mom, dad, sibling, or grandparent, and having your talent completely flop and not work. “I did it so many times before,” you’d muffle through embarrassed eyes. Don’t be embarrassed, because it has happened to all of us at some point. My talent show was ruined because I overthought it. We concentrate so hard on getting it right and not messing up that we end up doing just that.
Just like in the analogy used in the previous paragraph, so must you relate it to the world of popularity? Embrace new ideas, be open to new styles, cultures, etc after all the key to popularity is about you being true to yourself while being open enough to accept new things. Try anything once, so long as it is within your boundaries, and if you don’t like it – don ‘t do it again, but at least you tried. This will enhance your level of personal development in gaining popularity. The people you meet, and the friends that you make along your way to social stardom will send your spirit soaring through the sky, a shinning star, bright with status, regard, and esteem.
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